The dating game is complicated and frustrating. There are many decisions you have to make to get it right. You are constantly thinking about things like should you text first? What should you say etc. but what if I told you that there are ways to get him to text you first and possibly start other activities? Here are 10 ways by which you can get him to text you first
1. Don’t text him first
You should be scarcely available for him. If you are not there all the time he will always think about you and that will force him to text you. Always remember if you are out of the conversation, it will keep him wanting more
2.Give him the best moments of his life
If someone has a good time with you that person will love to hang out with you all the time. Have so much fun with them they miss you the moment you are away. Find the common things you love like hiking or rock concerts! No one said dating needs to boring. The more you laugh the more you will miss each other…
Well, we all love to laugh! Let random things remind him of you happily. He is walking on the street and sees a banner that reminded him of a joke you made and suddenly he has a strong urge to send you text reminding the laugh you had when you saw that banner. You don’t have to be a stand-up comedian, just let the humor emerge naturally
4. Don’t be available all the time
Let him miss you. If you are texting him all the time, you will reduce your value. He will assume that you are there all the time and there is no urgency to text you. While you need not be mean and avoid him on purpose, in fact you should always respond in the best and most cheerful way you can. Just don’t be available 24/7 and that will make him miss you and text you
5. Why should he text?
He should have a reason to text you and it’s up to you to give him one. Do you have great and meaningful conversations? Do you have fun talking to each other? Are you comfortable with him and vice versa? If he thinks he likes talking to you and can comfortably share a secret or two with you, he will love to talk to you
6. Mingle with his friends
Assuming you already met his friends, try to get along with them. It’s common for guys to introduce their girlfriends to their friends to get their opinion about you. I would like to mention you don’t have to be something you are not. Don’t force yourself to get their approval. But if you are nice and funny, they will like you (in most cases!) and in that case they will be the one asking him to text you!
7. Ask him to do it
It is possible he doesn’t even realize that he is not texting you first, and it is not appropriate. You need to tell him that as much as you love texting him, he also needs to start the conversations sometimes. You might have friends telling you it is a stupid idea, but believe me it works every time.
8. Just ask him to text you later!
It’s a good idea to tell him to text you later when he is free. It gives him a timeline without sounding needy or desperate. One dirty trick is to say you need to ask him something later. This will keep him wondering the whole day thinking about what is it you wanted to ask. Though I don’t recommend it doing it all the time or he will he through it.
9. Does he even like texting
He might like you but it is the texting he hates! You need to see if he is great in person and gives you a great time but he is not that much into texting
There are many people, both men and women who prefer an actual conversation over texting. Well it is not a bad thing, and if you ask me it’s nice that he wants to have a closer and more intimate interaction with you instead of texting
10. He may not be into you
Okay here is the tough part, if you have already established all the above, that means he may not be into you. It’s difficult to accept that, but it’s not the end of the world either. There is no point beating a dead horse. If this the case then the best thing is to move on.
While it is great to have him text you first it is not crazy you text him first given you like him. Not everyone will see it desperate and needy, in fact a lot of guys will appreciate you taking the first initiative. If you think you have found what you are looking for and you have a great time, don’t let something stupid stop you