Any relationship is difficult and there will undoubtedly be potential problems at some point and infidelity may occur. These difficulties are even more exaggerated if you are in a long distance relationship.
There are always signs that someone is cheating on you in a long distance relationship or may be about to cheat on you and the key is to watch out for these signs and act on them, however, it will be best if you have proof before you overreact and accuse your partner of cheating on you.
1. Lying – Even if it’s a little white lie
If your long distance partner is away from you and lying you should be worried. It doesn’t matter if it starts with a tiny white lie. Any sort of lying shows a sign of being devious and should be treated with real caution.
It may be as simple as not telling you that there were members of the other sex who went with them for drinks after work or not mentioning to you that they were going out to an all night party.
Soon after it can escalate to not telling you that they are going out with a colleague for drinks and a meal alone. Don’t jump to conclusions straight away but be aware that lying once and then covering up the lie can quickly evolve into a dangerous situation where all the trust is gone in a relationship and trust is even more important in a long distance relationship.
If you don’t trust your partner then there is usually a gut feeling behind it. Trust your gut feeling as that is one of the true signs that your partner is cheating on you in a long distance relationship.
2. Your partner suddenly has a new friend on a social network site and is sending and receiving a lot of messages
With the increased use of social network sites like Facebook it is so easy to see who people are talking to when they are chatting to them. If your partner suddenly has a new friend who is popping up a lot on their feed then take note and be cautious, especially if this new friend hasn’t been spoken about to you.
It’s obviously not fair and also impossible to stop your long distance partner making friends but watch out if their new friend is hot and single and very interested in your boyfriend or girlfriend. Be extra wary of those late night messages, they can easily carry over into phone conversations and late night rendezvous!
3. Increased arguments particularly started by your partner
It’s not uncommon for one of the people in a relationship to use fighting as a way to break up a relationship. So be aware if yours is making constant unnecessary arguments; they may be trying to shift the blame towards you and trying to cover their guilt with wild excuses and to make you feel like you are at fault.
This can be used as either a way to end the relationship or simply as a cover not to speak to you for a few days while they get away with their new special friend. Anger towards you can also be a sign that your partner is becoming increasingly worried and stressed about something; it could well be their secret lover.
4. Partner is being extra suspicious
Often a sign that someone is cheating on you in a long distance relationship is that they become overly suspicious themselves. Are you being questioned over zealously about where you have been, who with and for how long?
This could be an indication that the subject is on your partners mind and they are deflecting their paranoia onto you to cover their tracks.
5. Never knowing where they are, why they missed your calls or simply avoiding talking to you
When a person appears to be avoiding talking to someone it is usually because they are avoiding them or hiding something. It may be that they are plain ignoring your calls because they feel guilty about something or simply that they couldn’t answer them because they were busy with someone else.
Either way, missing a regular talk slot or even a special meeting time that they agreed to and generally being flaky with their commitments is the biggest sign that your long distance relationship might not be working or your partner might be cheating on you.
With all of these signs, caution is advised as being overly paranoid might make the person you are in a long distance relationship resent you for being over possessive and even cause them to cheat.
However, it is well worth keeping an eye on their actions and see if they match any of these 5 top signs that someone is cheating on you in a long distance relationship.